Why I Chose To Be A Single Parent | Perspectives
Being a single parent is a difficult and challenging job, but it can also be incredibly rewarding. I chose to become a single parent for a variety of reasons, and I believe that it has been the right decision for me and my family.
I was in a long-term relationship when I became pregnant with my first child. We had discussed the possibility of marriage, but ultimately decided that it wasn’t the right decision for us. We both wanted to be parents, but we knew that we weren’t ready to make the commitment of marriage. We decided that I would become a single parent and raise our child together.
I was scared at first, but I knew that I could do it. I had a good job and a supportive family, so I knew that I could provide for my child. I also knew that I could rely on my partner for emotional and financial support. We both wanted to be involved in our child’s life, and we agreed that we would both be equally responsible for our child’s upbringing.
I was also motivated by the fact that I wanted to be a role model for my child. I wanted to show my child that it was possible to be a successful single parent. I wanted to show my child that it was possible to be a strong, independent woman who could provide for her family. I wanted to show my child that it was possible to be a loving and supportive parent, even without a partner.
I also wanted to be able to provide my child with a stable home environment. I wanted to be able to provide my child with a safe and secure home, where they could grow and develop without fear of instability. I wanted to be able to provide my child with a loving and supportive home, where they could feel secure and loved.
I have now been a single parent for several years, and I am proud of the life that I have created for my family. I have been able to provide my child with a stable home environment, and I have been able to provide them with the love and support that they need. I have also been able to show my child that it is possible to be a successful single parent.
Being a single parent has been a difficult and challenging journey, but it has also been incredibly rewarding. I am proud of the life that I have created for my family, and I am proud of the example that I have set for my child. I am proud to be a single parent, and I am proud of the life that I have created for my family.
Q: What motivated me to become a single parent?
A: I was motivated by a variety of factors, including the desire to be a role model for my child, the desire to provide my child with a stable home environment, and the desire to be a successful single parent.
Q: How has being a single parent been rewarding?
A: Being a single parent has been rewarding in many ways. I have been able to provide my child with a stable home environment, and I have been able to provide them with the love and support that they need. I have also been able to show my child that it is possible to be a successful single parent.
Q: What advice would I give to other single parents?
A: My advice to other single parents would be to stay strong and never give up. Being a single parent can be difficult and challenging, but it can also be incredibly rewarding. It is important to remember that you are not alone, and that there are many resources available to help you on your journey.
She’s a strong woman 😢❤. I pray God blesses her 7 fold blessings for her pain….
I'd like to go this way, but I won't be able to manage financially, I'm afraid. It sucks.
Wow your so beautiful I like yuo
She got the same BM.
Okay so I really really really needed this. I’m 25 now soon to be 26. I had my first child at 20 because I absolutely refused to have an abortion & never in my life believed in it. It was a very complicated pregnancy as my son had a birth defect. Because my sons father whom I’d dated for years btw wanted to push me into an abortion I left him. Moved away to a shelter. My family was going to have the laugh of their lives if I’d told them! I got 2 jobs , saved all my money. Had my son at 7 months. 1 pound. A supposedly 2 year hospital stay turn into 5 months. I got a house to bring him home to. His father started coming around & because I grew up without parents myself I wanted to give my son a better chance. One faithful day, 7am heavy snow outside, his father gets ready for the office & I genuinely and very nicely ask him to please help me get milk for the baby as I can’t possibly take him in the snow (not driving) the conversation escalates, he calls me out of my name and punches me in a way I’ve never experienced in my whole entire being. I completely black out & go absolutely crazy! My cheek is torn & bleeding. I’ve never fought so hard in my life! Let alone fight anyone at all. A neighbor calls the police & because he was a citizen & I an immigrant. I was arrested for being the aggressor even with blood gushing out! I’ve never felt so powerless! I was stripped of all my power at that moment. He had automatically won every battle there’d ever be because I now had a record for something I didn’t even start! He did follow the police & infront of a judge said it was a misunderstanding. Though they released me after a day! I was terrified! A straight A student! With a young child! I’d never so much as fought let alone have a verbal altercation with someone. Now with a record & the man who pressured me for an abortion now with the rights to my child that i suffered for. Broke me!!! Years later trying to co-parent whenever was convenient for the father was harsh as everyday brought with it it’s own challenges. I was hurt! I had done everything to provide & be a responsible mother to my son & I had lost! Now someone had to decide if they wanted me to see my child or not! I lost myself. I stayed in the city just for the pleasure I’d get whenever I got to see my son. I wasn’t myself! I was dying & not growing. Nothing was moving! I was miserable. One day I woke up & hated my life!!! My son was now 5 & it’d been painful watching the years go by. I got in my car that day & drove!! From Philly to Iowa! Only stopping for gas. No plans, no friends, no family, no advice, no announcements! Just drove. Applied for jobs on the way, booked a hotel, scheduled interviews for next day. Having a good resume & administrative background helped speed things up! 19 hours later! Driving 10 hours in an Iowa blizzard past midnight!! Made it to my hotel, had interviews next 2 days. Got all the jobs I applied for. Chose the one with Career advancement opportunities that’d help pay for college. Got an apartment 1 week later, parked my car. Flew back to philly. Gave everything in my apartment away & returned my keys. Flew back to Iowa. Worked 60 hours a week! Started my first semester of school in business management & passed with straight A’s. 8 months now in Iowa as I write this. In my second semester of school still paying nothing out of pocket, I’ve had 3 promotions at work already with an amazing team, have flown back to philly about 4 times to see my son! We FaceTime as often as possible. Went through IVF & now pregnant with daughter! Couldn’t be happier! Shopping for a house! In less that a year my life has completely changed!!! I don’t want anyone to ever have a say over my child! Or decide for me when to be a mother! I’m fortunate to have my son yes but he doesn’t get to feel the love of a mother and a man that never wanted him gets to dictate everything! Honestly I’m grateful for this current pregnancy with my daughter! Yes I’m young! But responsible. With a good head over my shoulders, intelligent & brilliant! Extremely hardworking & dedicated in everything I do. I fully truly trust that from the bottom of my heart I’ve made the right choice. & I’m doing everything in my power to ensure my daughter grows up without lacking a thing! Especially not the love I have to give.
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She had a child with her abusive partner. She got pregnant by him and decided to keep the baby. Two Horrible decision. Both each could have been prevented (birth control) or delete the pregnancy.
You are beautiful, wonderful, much love for you and your daughter and for your angel in Heaven 💕💕💕 thank you so much for sharing 🥰
Marriage is honorable among all the bed undefiled
I can certainly see why she chose to do what she did. Not sure I could ever trust a man again either. Such a beautiful little girl! Best wishes to this family.
So glad to hear that women are choosing solo parenthood. Don’t allow anyone to shame you for not being connected the father of the child. Take your power back.
This is dumb as hell
Thanks for inspiring me. I’m about to do this soon before 40
Oh my god, she lost her son brutally 😔 traumatic
I come here because i plan to be a single mom by choice too. Im too afraid to deal with marriage or any relationship. Raising a kid/kids made me happier than dealing w men and their families 😶😶😶
Some years to come, people will marry their siblings blindly…
“Where’s the dad” is such a rude and uncalled for question to ask
what a beautiful and inspiring story. Thanks for sharing. I really wish such a wonderful woman all the best.
I’m not even surprised that most of the negative and rude comments are coming from men. Y’all hate seeing women living their best lives without y’all? Lol 😂 get up you’re fine.
Wow. The level of selfishness in this adult preteen is astounding. Poor kids
I’m 25 years old and I’m already on my journey to single motherhood. I’ve already started my IVF process and im so excited for this journey, and NO I don’t care about what society has to say im having my baby for ME and no one else 🤎🤍
I like that she follows her dreams, but .. I wouldn’t promote this type of parenting, because the chances of them to end up taking a wrong path is higher..
I totally understand her. Being a single mom by choice is better than being in an abusive relationship.
how does someone kill their own baby??????
I want this <3
WOW! What a heartbreaking way to end a relationship on behalf of the male child murderer.
As a human being that was born from sperm donation can confirm I turned out totally fine and I'm not a criminal nor a statistic. For the commenters that are incredibly judgmental maybe think before you judge unless you've actually been in that situation yourself or a product of it. I'm thankful I'm alive however way I was born as I'm sure her child is as well.
Ladies, ladies, please ignore the negative men's comments here. Men hate to see women achieving their dreams without them. It's like emasculating them, lol.
While I see the comments that children from a 2 parent household grow up better than one with single parent, every situation is different. Its case by case. You can have a disfunctional or simply unloving spouse or even a sick spouse who is not able or capable of caring for a child, and thus the child suffers because of lack of love, attention, resources, seeing parents fight…etc… and child turns out messed up… and vice versa… point is everyone's situation is different. So judging, pointing fingers, and hating at others is just down right wrong. But, theres this thing called recompense, where we all get what we give.
I'm giving up on finding a husband too. Too many men just bring chaos on destruction into women's lives. And you can't look forever. Women have a biological clock. Either they settle on what's available (which isn't always good) or they take conceiving into their own hands.
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Wow, so inspirational. Well done you are brave , wise and courageous. Such a wise choice decision. So beautiful. thank you .
All the deadbeat dads in the comments are so triggered!
Delusional. Should have choice a better man to father your children that was your problem. Smh. Who is going to model for those children of what a man is so they go out chose better men? This is ridiculous.
This is a reasonable option . Motherhood is full of desire to share the love inside a woman. It is an infinite resource . I am on crutches since birth .
She went thru a traumatic experience with a mentally unstable guy, I feel sorry for her.
This is so inspiring, I'm thinking about donors as well. I'm not into marriage, I just want to be a mom. I love this 💖💗💕
Wow, what a brave courageous woman. As a mother, I don't think I would have survived such tragedy to live on. So incredibly painful beyond words. Bless her. I hope she's happy and ok today including her daughter. Amazing.
She really wants a white baby lol
Very important that this is an option for women. Not all of us want or need to in relationships. Fathers aren't necessary to raise children successfully.
After a string of poor decisions she makes the mother of all bad decisions. That kid will leave you in a retirement home the way you left her in daycare. The reasons she gave for having a kid are not good enough to decide to have a dog.
Thank you. "You mean the donor?…. I am not ashamed of it." Same here.