Parenting Styles and their Effects on Children
Parenting styles are the way parents interact with their children and the way they respond to their children’s behavior. Parenting styles have a significant impact on a child’s development and can shape their behavior, self-esteem, and emotional well-being. There are four main parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved. Each style has its own unique characteristics and can have a different effect on a child’s development.
Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parenting is a style of parenting that is characterized by high expectations, warmth, and responsiveness. Authoritative parents are firm but also supportive and understanding. They set clear rules and expectations for their children and are willing to listen to their children’s opinions and feelings. They also provide guidance and support to help their children reach their goals. This style of parenting has been found to be the most effective in promoting positive outcomes in children.
Authoritarian Parenting
Authoritarian parenting is a style of parenting that is characterized by high expectations and strict rules. Authoritarian parents are demanding and have little tolerance for disobedience. They often use punishment as a way to enforce their rules and expect their children to obey without question. This style of parenting can be damaging to a child’s development as it can lead to feelings of resentment and low self-esteem.
Permissive Parenting
Permissive parenting is a style of parenting that is characterized by low expectations and a lack of structure. Permissive parents are often warm and nurturing but do not set clear rules or expectations for their children. They are often more focused on being friends with their children than on being parents. This style of parenting can lead to children feeling entitled and lacking in self-discipline.
Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved parenting is a style of parenting that is characterized by a lack of involvement in a child’s life. Uninvolved parents are often emotionally distant and do not provide guidance or support to their children. This style of parenting can lead to feelings of neglect and can have a negative impact on a child’s development.
FAQs
What are the different types of parenting styles?
The four main types of parenting styles are authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved.
What is the most effective parenting style?
Research has found that authoritative parenting is the most effective parenting style in promoting positive outcomes in children.
What are the effects of authoritarian parenting?
Authoritarian parenting can be damaging to a child’s development as it can lead to feelings of resentment and low self-esteem.
What are the effects of uninvolved parenting?
Uninvolved parenting can lead to feelings of neglect and can have a negative impact on a child’s development.
what a great video with full explaination. Thanks
If I was a parent, I'd choose strict parenting.
Is it possible to be authoritative with a sprinkle of permissive.
i can't say which parenting styles my parents follow , but what i can say is in a way their style is a mix of permissive and authoritative ig ?
but more or less i turned out to be a person who is a people pleaser , with great communication skills and too many emotional hurdles
as my heart is always on my sleeve lol
Thank you for recognizing the cultural differences and the fact that Authoritarian can result in the same as authoritative depending on the living circumstances. Great video
Great video!
beautifully explained…. very helpful 👍thanks
I grew up with 2 sets of parents. My parent both divorced when I was 3. They both remarried thier current partners of 30 plus years when I was 5. It wasn't just the authoritarian parenting style by both my step parents and my father, and the authoritative style by my mom, that caused trauma and sabotaged our happiness. With my mother at least I knew she loved me. Please don't marry someone who has children from a previous relationship if you want nothing to do with those children. Children can feel your vibes and can tell you don't like them. Growing up feeeling unloved by more than half of your parental figures, and doubting about the love from the other destroys a child. When you add on top of that the screaming, put downs, being made fun of, mocked, critism, being called names like stupid and idiots, throwing toys and prized possession away, having unrealistic expectations, the severe punishments, and never getting rewarded for doing the right thing, only punished for the wrong thing. When you ask why you don't get rewarded for doing the right thing it's because that what you should do. My father believed spare the rod spoil the child so he beat us with our pants down, barebutt, made to bend over and grab your ankles. )so you couldn't tense/flex your butt muscles) He would lined us all up, whipping his belt, all 3 siblings standing in row because one of your brothers (maybe both) misbehaved or broke something. Your step mom always convincing dad I was the master mind. My father always gave us time to admit who committed the crime and he said he'd only beat the one who confessed. My brothers never admitted to thier bad behavior so he beat us all saying it was the only fair way. I got many beatings that I didn't deserve. I asked him years later why I got beat for things I didn't do as a child? His reply was "maybe I wasn't the best father" but he never apologized. Im the scapegoat of the family. The black sheep.. I could have dealt with authoritarian. What we had was toxic and abusive. No cps involved back then. My mother slapped me across the face around age 4 in front of a social worker for pointing out the social worker had a mustache. Case worker didn't blink an eye. Nowadays if you yell too loud and a neighbor complains the next thing you know you're in court fighting the state for custody. I'm not a perfect parent and as a result of my disfunctional childhood I suffer from anxiety and ptsd among others mental illnesses (some I think i was born with). I have had to fight with not wanting to be alive since age 4 and started praying to God to take me home to heaven every night as I lay in bed trying to fall asleep. The abuse from my family continued into my 30's. I left town 10 years ago and it was the best descion I ever made. It cost me tremendously but I now have two beautiful boys and a wonderful fiance. They boys don't have a relationship with my family except they have met thier grandma a few times. Ee text occasionally and she sends a birthday or Christmas gift..I'm happy to keep my children as far away as possible. My daughter was not so fortunate. Im pleased to see that authoritive parenting is not determental. Im trying to break a generational curse. I was looking into trying to switch to gentle parenting (not mentioned here) because it's how I usually am, gentle with them, give choices, explain consequences until I have to say no and they throw a fit or they repeatedly don't listen with clear directions and requests. I don't ask much. We were doing dishes, cleaning the house, and doing our own laundry around age 6. I won't do that to my kids. I think it mus have been nice for my parents having live in housekeepers. When I get triggered and yel. I'm working on it. I have only spanked my children as toddlers, over the diaper, just one swat no more than 3 times, and usually only when thier doing something that is dangerous and they could hurt themselves. I want them to remember the first time not to do that again. I didn't yell for over 3 year until we came down with covid a couple months ago (the entire household). We are still experiencing some symptoms from covid and it's taken its toll on my mental health. Easily annoyed or irritated, easily angered, less patience and more yelling than typical. This is not a life I want for my children or how I want to interact with them on a daily basis. I'm trying to break the cycle. My boys will never question that I love them. I would do anything in my power to protect them and encourage them to live the life of thier dreams. I have only had the courage to be who I really am and to start to follow my dreams, spiritual path, discovering my purpose with love and support from my little family and a couple of close friends. Without the doubt, the fear, the insecurity, the judgment, the ignorant opinions, the spreading of lies and false information and without the condemnation from the people who were entrusted to protect, to love and to take care of me I'm blooming. I would of done so much better if I had been parented by any of these other parenting models. Low control low affection would have still been better. I think some kids and other adults don't really understand what true abuse looks like. Quit judging. We all have our childhood traumas to heal from and I believe we are just doing the best we can with what we're left to deal with. Be kind to eachother. Be kind to your children. Be kind to the planet. Just be a good person and treat your child like a person deserves to be treated. A little decency and respect and we should all be just fine.
Thank you for good presentation.
I have a authoritative dad and permissive mom
my mom tries to be authoratative but is too exhausted to follow through with it and ends up being kinda permissive
Authoritarian father & uninvolved Mum
I want to use this piece for my sba could you please tell me the exact day you published this video🙏🏿?.
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My parents are a mix of authoritarian and uninvolved. Now I care more about good grades than my mental and/or physical health, I take forever to admit that I need help, always think that I'm faking it and that others have it worse and I seem to jump from one addiction to a bad coping mechanism to the next; I'm talking alcohol, pain meds, self harm, sleeping to escape reality, the list goes on. I just get a bad coping mechanism, realise that I'm hurting myself, force myself out of it and then just fall back into it or another bad coping mechanism. It feels like a cycle that I can't escape.
One of the best videos i have ever watched
I am still not married neither have children so i am glad I watched this now before i do
What the difference between the last two?
my parents are a mix of all these styles 😝
Thank u so much
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How do we treat the emotional problems of teenage girls?!.
-When children were neglected at an early age by not sitting and playing with them and emotionally containing them.
-When children are left with maids for long periods without renewing the mother-child relationship every day.
-When the couple works at the same time and the children are left with the nannies, the balance of the children's subconscious is disturbed due to the constant change of face in the children's eyes.
When the marital relationship suffers apathy and atrophy and the husband or wife searches for an alternative lover and the spouses lose their responsibility towards their children.
-When bloody, sexual or psychological content spreads on phones and television, and the couple goes to the misleading media, forgetting the paternal sense, and the parents are busy searching for the lost treasure.
And many of the mistakes that the media do not pay the slightest attention to and are the reason behind the emergence of a generation looking for the pleasure of sex, alcohol, rebellion, theft and gasping behind murderous politics.
ALI SUROOR
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I grew up with an Authoritarian dad and a permissive mom. Always told myself that I will raise my child opposite of how I was raised only to catch myself making the same mistakes mine did.
Is this supported by strong evidence? Does the evidence take into account heredity? Might parents bring up their children in a particular style because of their genes and might children of those parents turn out that way because of genes rather than environment?
my parents are authoritarian and im pretty sure im fucked up ❤️❤️
I'm here trying to figure out my parents' parenting style and I think it's a mixed bag. I think at least mom tried to be authoritative, but it came off more as authoritarian, no privacy, high expectations, on the good days and practically like she wasn't even there on the bad days. All the days became bad days when I just stopped talking to her about anything. She told me to shut up once, haven't broken that silence in a decade. All I really remember from dad when I was a small kid was that he would go to work early, come back hours after the rest of us, and just watch tv or yell when he was actually home. So yeah, I never really bonded with him that much, just the occasional time he'd take us swimming or play mario kart wii with us, or when he read science and mechanics magazines for bedtime stories before I learned to read. The thing is, I know they tried their best, I know mom has had untreated depression at least since I was 4 and got it treated just last year, I know dad's had depression for ages too and only gotten it under control in the past couple years. I know that they're good people, and that makes it feel so shit to never want to see them again, to not bare going to their place where I grew up because the flashbacks are so strong, to accept that they were part of the reason I got fucked up. To accept being bullied for six years wasn't the only problem, that there were problems before that, before I was 6. To accept that even though my childhood ended when I was 6,5 years-old, which is too early for anyone, even my childhood wasn't as happy and healthy I thought it had been for ages. To accept that I don't know what healthy relationships and a healthy self image are because I never had them, so I have no idea of knowing if mine are healthy. Parents, raise your kids well.
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If authoritarian parenting is as effective as authoritative parenting, how do we determine which has the best outcomes for children? How do we properly determine which is actually the best method?
When examining both explanations in your video about authoritative parenting and authoritarian parenting, it clearly shows a more negative affect on a child when authoritarian parenting is enforced. What evidence is there for your claim that you can acquire the same results in children by some parents who used authoritative parenting style vs the authoritarian parenting style?
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This is great, Thank you!
I prefer to use authoritative parenting so I know best for my child
This was great information! Thank You!
Is it possible to have 2 types of parenting styles???
Parenting is the most challenging but rewarding job.
My parents are working so my nanny is the one who teach and took care of me
shee is authoritarian because she focuses on punishments.I'm disappointed because she hit and yell when I made a mistake. Even though she is like that, shee is kind
That's why i'm afraid to commit mistakes because even she says That spanking is love,, i don't feel any love when it comes to discipline. Is it ok to use phissical punishments?
My single mom is an uninvolved parent and she will be loosing custody over me and my sister very soon and we will be moving to other families. We live in our grandmas apartment with her but shes starting to get dementia so she screams at us all the time and says really hurtful things. Mom technically lives here too but she bought a little cottage in the middle of nowhere where she is all the time with her boyfriend when shes not working. She sometimes visits us but she just goes straight to bed and we dont even talk. I wouldnt wish my childhood on anyone…
Thank you Daniel Storage for this video. It gave a clear idea on the topic and helped me to convey it better for the group I explained it yesterday. May many get helped through your rich knowledge.
Thank you very much for this time and effort . It gives a clear idea on the topic. You're in my today's gratitude list
Hey is there any way to try to get my parents to change from authoritarian.
My Mom used to be a healthy balance, higher on the authoritative side but it was alright. Then my parents went through a divorce and later met a new guy. She became an awful combination of authoritarian and uninvolved, putting ridiculously high standards on me because her boyfriend's sons were straight A students in college. Meanwhile having close to no warmth now while being neglectful. All that matters to her is her boyfriend, her rules, and many other things that are hers.
I've been trying to get away from her more and more. I started by going to in-person college classes and it worked until the pandemic came around and made everything online. I was miserable sitting at home dealing with my Mom constantly snooping and offering no help. Honestly she only made things worse by ruining my motivation through threatening to smash my Xbox when I was only playing a few hours every couple days. Video games have been my hobby since I was little.
My next idea was later on when I started working full time. I met this girl who had a crush on me, and eventually we eventually started dating. Seeing that her family was a mess and how her grandparents treated her horribly, it was inevitable that we'd decide to move in together. However my Mom made me nervous by threatening to cut car insurance, phone plans, and so forth on me. What made things worse was how determined my girlfriend was absolutely determined to get our apartment. Telling her how I thought cancelling our lease might've been the better option definitely put a dent in our relationship. My girlfriend and I are still making things work, but I'm furious at my Mom for being so selfish that she nearly ruined my happiest relationship. Right now I'm just emotionally blank and have been nothing but desperate for a way out.
Nailed it. Great video.
Thank you. my research paper is half done
My parents switch through authoritarian and permissive, it's either one or the other, nothing in between
My mom is permissive and my dad is authoritarian and I turned out to be a people pleaser with anxiety 😂💀
My mom and dad are authoritative parents, but my stepmom is authoritarian😅😅😅the mix is very confusing
Why isnt there a medium category instead of only high and low? If you add a medium level, which is more realistic as most people are medium isnt it, then you have 5 more parenting styles potentially….