Permissive Parenting: The Pros & Cons
Permissive parenting is a parenting style that is characterized by a lack of rules and structure. This type of parenting is often seen as being more relaxed and less strict than other parenting styles. Permissive parents tend to be more lenient and allow their children to make their own decisions without much guidance or direction.
The pros of permissive parenting include the fact that it can foster a strong bond between parent and child. Permissive parents often have a close relationship with their children and are able to provide emotional support and understanding. This type of parenting also allows children to develop their own sense of independence and autonomy.
The cons of permissive parenting include the fact that it can lead to children feeling a lack of structure and guidance. Without clear rules and expectations, children may struggle to make good decisions and may become more prone to risky behavior. Additionally, permissive parenting can lead to children feeling a lack of discipline and may lead to them feeling entitled or spoiled.
The Benefits of Permissive Parenting
One of the main benefits of permissive parenting is that it can foster a strong bond between parent and child. Permissive parents often have a close relationship with their children and are able to provide emotional support and understanding. This type of parenting also allows children to develop their own sense of independence and autonomy.
Additionally, permissive parenting can help children to develop problem-solving skills. By allowing children to make their own decisions, they are able to learn how to think through problems and come up with solutions on their own. This can help them to become more independent and self-reliant.
Finally, permissive parenting can help children to develop a sense of responsibility. By allowing children to make their own decisions, they are able to learn from their mistakes and become more responsible for their actions.
The Drawbacks of Permissive Parenting
One of the main drawbacks of permissive parenting is that it can lead to children feeling a lack of structure and guidance. Without clear rules and expectations, children may struggle to make good decisions and may become more prone to risky behavior. Additionally, permissive parenting can lead to children feeling a lack of discipline and may lead to them feeling entitled or spoiled.
Another potential drawback of permissive parenting is that it can lead to children feeling overwhelmed or confused. Without clear boundaries and expectations, children may not know how to act or behave in certain situations. This can lead to them feeling overwhelmed or confused and can lead to them feeling anxious or stressed.
Finally, permissive parenting can lead to children feeling a lack of security. Without clear rules and expectations, children may not feel safe or secure in their environment. This can lead to them feeling anxious or stressed and can lead to them feeling insecure or uncertain.
FAQs
What is permissive parenting?
Permissive parenting is a parenting style that is characterized by a lack of rules and structure. This type of parenting is often seen as being more relaxed and less strict than other parenting styles. Permissive parents tend to be more lenient and allow their children to make their own decisions without much guidance or direction.
What are the benefits of permissive parenting?
The benefits of permissive parenting include the fact that it can foster a strong bond between parent and child, it can help children to develop problem-solving skills, and it can help children to develop a sense of responsibility.
What are the drawbacks of permissive parenting?
The drawbacks of permissive parenting include the fact that it can lead to children feeling a lack of structure and guidance, it can lead to children feeling overwhelmed or confused, and it can lead to children feeling a lack of security.
Have you seen examples of Permissive Parenting? If so, what are the pros & cons you've seen? Please share below!
You are not negative enough.
Truly helpful, thanks
Nailed it,
My girlfriend allows her 14 yr old to use every swear word insult grandparents and family have no respect for anyone or anything it's 2 am and she's eating dinner she threw a fit wanted home schooling 2 months into her freshman year I'm up at 2 am have to work can't say anything mommy still has the imbulical or permissive parenting attached this is a joke parenting style
If your permissive parenting then it's child abuse that simple stop
Overall, good video. I think you are a little one sided on permissive parenting and intrinsic motivation. It would make sense that high levels of independence and decision making for kids with permissive parents could increase intrinsic motivation, too.
Mixing parenting styles is a nightmare. I'm authoritative but had a partner who was permissive. She was constantly looking to excuse and normalise the negative behaviours associated with it. She shut me down on everything, passively but i was not allowed to say no even in my own home, so in the end I kept quiet and stopped having my child and myself eventually around her child. Inevitably it ended the relationship.
My son's friend's mom is a permissive parent. The kid is so spoiled, that he didn't want to come over anymore because a few times I said no to something, and no amount of fake pouting/pitty parties changed it. I wasn't phased at all. That is how he gets whatever he wants from his mom.. he lies to her, emotionally manipulates her to get out of having to do what his dad said, throws toddler-like fits to make her give in.. he even has tricked her(and me) when she wasn't feeling good into getting me to bring my son over by lying and when I was omw, she texted me to casually and light heartedly tell me what he did and I said I would just turn around and plan for another day and she was like, "Noo, it's ok. The boys want to hang out." Like.. WHAT?! He honestly acts like a mini narcissist and even my son is taken aback a lot of the time by the way he acts, and by the way he tries to manipulate him. It has been a good opportunity to help him practice setting and maintaining personal boundries.
My partner is a vigilant permissive parent. His daughter bullies, is sneaky, lies about illness. One day, we were getting ready for bed, our rooms are across from each other. He comes in our room to ask advice about work, she screams from the top of her lungs "I SAID GET ME WATER! NOT TALK TO RAYESSA!", he ignored her. By this time, im seeing red. He's said nothing and continues to talk. She screams "I SAAAID, GO GET ME WATER! DONT TALK TO RAYESSA! NOW!". He rushed to the sink to get her water and continued to put her down. She's horrible, and its not her fault. As someone who was raised in a Japanese and African household, I don't even understand how people can let their own guilt ruin their children.
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I'm 3 years late to this thread and I hope all is well with your family!
What I can say is that for a permissive parenting style to work a structure needs to be implemented.
My parents are sort of Authoritative/Permissive. We have family values such as Integrity, Grit, Love, Respect, and our love for God.
If I'm being honest, it all depends on the cooperation between the child and parents, because I chose not to abuse the freedom, and my parents kept the role of guiding with rules and consequences. I remind myself usually that my parents are giving everything to make my life easier and in return I made my objective to strive to be the best and make my parents proud.
I do agree that permissive parenting can go wrong because of the amount of freedom and less restrictions that are given, but the way that it affected me as I grew older is that I am much closer and open with my parents, I understood that they want to guide and teach me like how they were guided by their parents.
In terms of Academics I am in Grade 11, currently in STEM flying with high marks.
If you are a child of permissive parenting, this is the first thing you must do
1. Do not complain, nor blame your parents because of this
I myself am one, and ive been applying this to myself recently.
Thank you this was helpful!
my parents raised me like that and now i'm lazy asf 💀
At what age do start to discipline a child?
Permissive parenting is mostly what's going on today
My girlfriend has a 13 year old son and she basically lets him do whatever he wants. She doesn't enforce any types of rules and he doesn't even have chores; all of the household work falls on us. So based on my experiences, permissive parenting is not only negatively affecting her son, its also putting a strain on our relationship. I can see him already developing a sense of entitlement, which is scary. When I was growing up, my mother and father expected me to help out around the house, and when I didn't, they raised their voices. I respected my parents growing up and I turned out to be a respectful and responsible adult. I think permissive parenting is more common that we think and parents need to understand the negative impacts it can have on their children's lives and on their own relationships as well.
My father was permissive and spoiled me a lot growing up…as an adult today I would say it has negatively affected my development…
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Pros of permissive parenting: Encourages creativity, self-reliance, promotes independence in childhood play and activities, strengthening usage of internal problem solving, child faces the world with fearlessness and zeal
Cons of permissive parenting: lack understanding of reciprocation in interactions with others in childhood and as an adult, often lacks emotional regulation, short-sighted as an adult when challenged with real-world demands, blame shifting and/or lacking cause-and-affect thinking (I.e. because self did this, it affects self or others in a negative way)
I have two kids. Both are sons. My elder son who is 11 years old. He is very dominant to me. When I do not fulfill his wishes. He abuses me and hits me. My younger son is also affecting by his behavior. My spouse and in laws also Treat and tell them that your mother is not a good. My
This is my major problem that I am facing. Guide me. Wait for your response.
Sir please let me know that my son is so dominating to me how to deal with him.
I have seen permissive parenting.children just lose their way and make one wrong decision after another and the parents keep supporting them .Sadly no one is happy now and regrets have not helped either.Too late.
I don't think permissive parenting is good for kids. I was on the stricter side, and we had family rules. As I told my kids when they were teenagers and not happy with me, my job is to raise you right, even when that's not easy. It was tough at times, but both my kids grew up to be amazing people!
Great video. Good advice
Parenting can be so difficult. I think you're raising some great conversation by discussing permissive parenting and the pros and cons!
Some excellent points. I am done parenting, but grand-parenting also comes with some responsibility too..
I had two different parents. One was loving and one was controlling. I approach each with different restraint now.
Really great video. I can't imagine what that does to children! Yikes!
Great video and really wonderful information. Thank you for sharing.
You know, I didn't realize what permissive parenting is…but I have to say your video really resonates with me. While I don't let my son "run wild and run free", LOL, I WILL say that I find myself wanting to be more of a friend to my son as opposed to a parent. But I agree that the results can be disastrous…so I've had to rein things in. Hard? Yes. Worth it. Double YES! I look forward to your next video! Thanks so much for this one!
Great video… Thank you for sharing this!
Such a great video!!! As a parent, you must use the word NO when necessary or you will end up with little monsters! LOL
I think this is an excellent presentation, providing clear information about the drawbacks of this parenting style. well done, I learned a lot.
this is such a great topic for video and you make so many great points!
Great permissive parenting lesson here! Kids thrive with structure and clear expectations. I've found that there is actually more freedom and less correcting after the fact when clear boundaries and rules have been communicated and honored from the beginning. I can think of one friend in particular who is definitely a permissive parent and her three boys are really difficult to be around. Thanks for sharing
Great tips, you really break it down and give great examples.
Good to know that I'm an anti-permissive parent 🙂 I am a typical tiger mom, and when I tell my children that A- isn't ok, other parents think I'm nuts 🙂 I just want my kids to be the best they can be in everything they do. And setting boundaries and saying 'no' is extremely important to me. I think my kids are the last ones in US without a phone 🙂
Interesting video! I'm not a parent but I can certainly imagine how it could be challenging to find the right balance when raising your children!
Thanks for your video! It's important to teach kids to listen and be sympathetic, if not empathetic.
I agree. Structure is important. Guidance is needed
Very interesting. Definitely agree about the rules
Children crave structure. A permissive parent doesn’t realize that they are actually harming their children and putting a big burden on their child’s shoulder. By letting them decide everything and letting them do whatever they want you are putting them in charge and children might want that once in a while but that’s not what they want all the time. They don’t want to be the adult that’s too much to ask of the child. Children want guidance, love and structure. They will respect you more if you guide them but also respect their opinion without forcing them to make all the decisions in their lives.
I completely agree with your explanation. I believe there can be a balance between discipline and allowing your child to explore their personality. Like you said, structure is important. Excellent video!!