
Blame, Guilt and Loneliness: Single Parent Struggles
Being a single parent is one of the most difficult and challenging roles a person can take on. It can be a lonely and isolating experience, and it can be difficult to cope with the feelings of guilt, blame, and loneliness that come with it. This article will explore the struggles of single parenting, and how to cope with the emotions that come with it.
Single parenting is a unique experience, and it can be difficult to navigate the emotions that come with it. Many single parents feel guilty for not being able to provide their children with the same level of care and attention that two-parent households can provide. They may also feel guilty for not being able to provide their children with the same financial stability that two-parent households can provide. This guilt can be compounded by the fact that single parents often have to work longer hours to make ends meet, leaving less time for their children.
Single parents may also feel blamed for their situation. They may be judged by family, friends, and even strangers for not being able to provide their children with the same level of care and attention that two-parent households can provide. This can lead to feelings of shame and inadequacy, and can make it difficult for single parents to feel comfortable in their own skin.
The loneliness of single parenting can be overwhelming. Single parents often feel isolated and alone, as they are the only ones responsible for their children’s care and well-being. This can lead to feelings of depression and anxiety, as well as a lack of motivation and energy.
It is important for single parents to remember that they are not alone in their struggles. There are many resources available to help single parents cope with the emotions that come with single parenting. It is important to reach out to family, friends, and other single parents for support. It is also important to take time for self-care, and to find activities that bring joy and relaxation.
Tips for Coping with Blame, Guilt and Loneliness
1. Acknowledge your feelings: It is important to acknowledge and accept your feelings of guilt, blame, and loneliness. It is normal to feel these emotions, and it is important to recognize them and give yourself permission to feel them.
2. Reach out for support: It is important to reach out to family, friends, and other single parents for support. Talking to someone who understands your situation can be a great source of comfort and understanding.
3. Take time for yourself: It is important to take time for yourself and to do activities that bring you joy and relaxation. This can help to reduce stress and anxiety, and can help to boost your mood.
4. Seek professional help: If you are struggling to cope with your emotions, it is important to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can help you to process your emotions and to develop coping strategies.
FAQs
Q: How can I cope with the guilt and blame of single parenting?
A: It is important to acknowledge and accept your feelings of guilt and blame. It is also important to reach out to family, friends, and other single parents for support. Taking time for yourself and doing activities that bring you joy and relaxation can also help to reduce stress and anxiety. If you are struggling to cope with your emotions, it is important to seek professional help.
Q: How can I cope with the loneliness of single parenting?
A: It is important to reach out to family, friends, and other single parents for support. Talking to someone who understands your situation can be a great source of comfort and understanding. Taking time for yourself and doing activities that bring you joy and relaxation can also help to reduce stress and anxiety. If you are struggling to cope with your emotions, it is important to seek professional help.
I think that you are allowed to express pain. It is normal to be shocked when a guy who wanted a family with you leaves for trash with baggage…..
I've just come across this & I identify with some of the things said here 💯 I'm a sole parent of 3 minors. I separated & divorced in 2019 & been a sole parent since June of that year due to her abandonment of my children after 14 yrs of marriage mainly down to general mental health, infidelity & alcoholism. I've no support network really & my 8 Yr old is severely disabled needing 24/7 around the clock care / support. I find it so mentally draining as I wouljd really like to find another partner, but ultimately find it impossible.
This gave me so much hope ❤ thank you
Excuses Excuses Excuses
The lack of accountability in the comments 😂
Beautiful video..thank u for sharing
Thank you so much for this video. Felt like sitting down with a friend over coffee (even though it's extremely hard to do that without getting a sitter). I appreciate you 💕
I had to leave because the emotional abuse was not just my son's Dad, it was his family and friends too. People that I loved and was present for, for years. He woke up one day and got extremely abusive, during my pregnancy. We got breadcrumbs of family moments and abuse in between. I had to walk away. Almost 4 months out. It's HARD. I'm so sad, yet even with the sadness life is better for us without the abuse. My son is soooo happy. 🤍
SO ,BLAME ,GUILT, LONELINESS, REMORSE ,REGRET ARE SOME THINGS (** SINGLE PARENTS **) GO THRU??
I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND WHO IS A SINGLE PARENT… I WANT TO KNOW HOW TO BE SUPPORTIVE TO HER..??
THANKS
Being a single mom ×3(doing it all alone/no dad help or family) has been by far the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my entire 35 years of life 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭I'm so OVERWHELMED AND LONELY 😩😩😩😩😩😩 I ask myself on a daily basis “what the fuck did I do to deserve a life this difficult???” I'm truly so exhausted. From financially doing it alone to mentally… I know I won't stay in this moment forever, just trying to understand why it's so hard.
Thank you. I love your content and have used it to get through the hardest times with my difficult ex wife. The more I work on me the better I am for my children. ❤❤❤❤
Thank you 🙏🏻 my problem right now is worrying so much about the future and if I’m going to be able to always support my son financially.
This video is so spor on! Thank you🙏
So how would I go about the abusive father wants visitation with child. I had to get a protective order. The order has run out now. Do I allow the father to be involved in his life again??? He not on the birth certificate. And I have had visitation before between us but it didn’t work.
Thank you, I really want to learn how to not feel guilty as a single mom putting my daughter through college on my own. How I’ve made a financial agreement we both created, but now the timeline is changing. I don’t want to feel guilty for feeling like it’s time for removing myself from some financial burdens with her while respecting myself and actually feeling respected by her. I feel like I’m being taken advantage of and also her dad never financially contributing. A hard balance and the guilt is real, loneliness is real. No one will be responsible for me but me. Very hard to navigate college/parenting/ being the bank/ stress and burdens
If you've ever been abused one of the hardest things is…. cognitive dissonance..i don't understand why I'm sad..but I'm sad etc. Constantly having been gaslit..
And the way you have been able to heal, might not be the same way another person heals or at the same rate..so each person is different be non judgemental supportive and don't invalidate those feelings ever. Not to yourself or to anyone else..
One thing that helped me insanely was doing the smallest..tiniest thing that was to make me happy and build my confidence. I wake up and i go pick up the yard…. I feel like a rewarded feeling when I do a little gardening. I just began doing it..what's crazy is after coming out of a bad relationship…you are in survival mode for so long that once you finally feel safe and able to explain those feelings to a person you feel is safe they look at you and gasp… "It's been two years….you should be over this…stop commiserating.." "get over the victim mindset" instead, say something like, what made you think of this today? And thank them for sharing with you..being gaslit by all your family members and friends etc after being in a bad relationship is like vinegar on a wound..if you honestly don't understand, don't know what to say…don't have all the facts….you should never ever assume you know….unless you have all the facts…. Then you need to just listen, be patient be kind and don't make any statements or give any advice. Instead just say I am so sorry you feel that way, i am thankful you trust me I am trying to understand but my heart is with you. Do you have any questions or do you want my advice or do you need me to just listen? Please do…realize that ptsd and chronic ptsd have an effect on a person's brain and if you actually want to help be patient. Otherwise you're stunting their healing bc you gaslit someone who spent years being gaslit..healing is not linear. It's a journey. If you can't be kind and supportive best to just keep your distance..thank you God bless
But the effects single life has had on my kids..they hate me!!😪😭😫that….
I’m about to leave a super abusive marriage. This is the hard thing I’ve ever done in my 46 years of life. I feel weak and nervous and so much self doubt. Thank you for this video. I’m going to watch it over and over. I’m going to get my power back
Single moms 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Think about the poor father who doesn’t even get to see his children.
I recognise that I am stuck on victim mode. I was never allowed to talk about the abuse I faced as a child or within my marriage. I have been for the past 2 years and it feels like echo chamber. I feel heard but afterwards I don’t feel a sense of relief. It sometimes feel as though it’s becoming my identity. I am more then a victim or a survivor, those things that happened to me are not the only thing I am. I am more then that… I know this for sure… but I am struggling with knowing what that is exactly. I have to find myself in a way because I have somehow made my children my identity. It was all about being a good parent but when I have a wobble it feels like I have failed. I think there need to be a balance between acknowledging what happened and just reliving it by talking about it. It’s why I am here watching this video, I know there is a issue that has to be resolved so I can live the life I truly want. Those things happened and no matter how many times I revisit it or talk about it I will never change the outcome.
Society need to stop being so judgemental like just chill and let people be
Yes I feel bad for my baby boy I chose the wrong person to be his dad. I don’t get any credit for raising our son on my own. I only get support from my dad and my sister. Thanks for your vlog.
hi. are you available to touch on this topic for a zoom meeting with other moms?
Little harder with a kid with ASD who wanted nothing more than attention and love from her toxic abusive father. After he discarded us both for another supply and her kid, he became OBSESSED with seeing my daughter.
Psalm 127:3-5
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
Isolation is the biggest struggle. After having many "friends" and a big family, I realized that there was no one after I left my husband and needed support. The only Christmas card I got was from my real estate agent. I'm so disappointed in people. I don't want to go on dates. I have a 4 year old who is not the easiest boy in the world. Everything seems too complicated.
You're super inspirational. I'm shocked such a pretty lady had 3 weekends with no plans.
I can relate to the loneliness
Still single Stephanie?
Not all parents love unconditionally
Humans are just too fine breed..
in whole animal kingdom is normal that there is a single parent…men are cheating?no they are doing their buisness…I never want a kid..I live free single life…now I am pregnant..but that man will never know .its my child he just did what he has to genetically..dont think people are more than animals..or at least, not in the way of parenting ❤️
and as everything . its about the way you look at things .if you see it as a struggle it will be struggle, if you see it as a game to play,it will be fun, for both mother and child. 😉
This is soooo relatable to me! Thank u so much! I needed to hear this!!! ❤️
I have gotten zero emotional support when I need it the most
Thank u for saving my life! 🧬
As a single men in the dating Market, I don't want to be blamed or guilt tripped to have minimum basic dating standards / preferences like wanting rather a person that is childless.
So this doesn’t include widows.AT.ALL. My husband died. His support is gone, my kids lost their dad, he is dead. Financial support gone. I am grieving, my kids are grieving. Completely different situation. This video is useless.
Let me correct you. Adult's are susceptible to the same scenarios. Emphasizing; Adult's still want to be kids at heart. The truth of facts. You did the deed, now it is time for both to decide. Abandonment is a choice of the Father. That is when a Mother overcomes. "VISE VERCA".
"I'm bitter I'm angry I'm blaming my ex and I'm moving forward, and I'm cool" ok but are you happy? Lol that was good
Stephanie, this is your best video ever. Please do more videos on single parenting…please!!! 🙏
All I’ve seen in 39 years now is promiscuous women who reject the great guys and pick the scumbags. Over and over again. I can only hope my whore ex is miserable because she fucked me up mentally. Fuck these selfish people.
Hi can I share your video to educate our viewers about single parent. This ?ocial issue is very informative. Credit is still for the creator. We will put disclaimer to respect the creator. Thanks you.
Ok so my question is my soon to be ex abused me for 10 years. She also abused our son. He is only 3.5 years old. Some terrible stuff. So I believe that she shouldn't have access to him for a long time. I lost all trust when my son opened up to me about what happened to him. I've only just gotten out and I'm trying to report everything to the police. Courts are next. It feels like a nightmare and I haven't even had to do the testimonies in the court yet. So should she have access? I don't think so. Maybe supervised. I'm worried in the interim that being exposed to her will mentally destabilise him after the abuse.